(In addition, different sexual positions suit different shapes of erection, as we shall see.) In fact, the prostate will be stimulated by the thrusting of a penis, or finger, or dildo, or anything else introduced into the rectum.Īnd this pressure on the prostate is responsible for much of the pleasure that the man receiving his partner’s penis will actually feel but the whole area around the anus is erotically sensitive, and of course there’s the emotional thrill of having sex as well. The more a sex position that makes that happen, the more pleasurable it will be. What makes anal sex pleasurable? If you don’t already know, a man’s prostate gland is in an ideal position to be stimulated during anal sex when his partner’s penis presses on it through the wall of his rectum. In fact it’s probably time to abandon the notion of active and passive sex positions, and think of one’s own sexual position as something that can change from time to time. This is better terminology, but it can get confusing if the bottom is, for example, sitting in his partner’s lap, since you might argue he was then on top! If you’re confused, don’t worry – all will become clear. More recently, gay men having sex have been called the “top” (the one doing the penetration) and the “bottom” (the one being penetrated). The man taking his partner’s penis is capable of thrusting his hips, moving his pelvis and enjoying the sex just as much as the man who’s doing the penile thrusting.
There’s an image of the active, masculine, man as being the one who fucks the passive, less masculine, man during gay anal sex – but in reality, both partners are active to some degree.
In other words, what sex position do you take? Top or bottom? And what does that say about your masculinity? Of course, one of the big issues for gay men having anal sex for the first time is whether they see themselves as “active” or “passive”. We hope Americans continue to explore both their and their partners’ bodies in healthy, positive ways.As with all sexual activity, practice makes perfect! You may find it takes you some time to get used to anal sex and the sex positions that suit you, but once you’re relaxed and at ease with it, you’ll most likely find anal intercourse a source of great pleasure. We were impressed by a few aspects of the results, including the range of positions Americans are utilizing in their sexual arsenal, especially a rise in anal engagement. “The results of this new Bespoke Surgical survey are really enlightening and show we’ve been spending the past year researching - and trying - a wide range of sexual positions. Evan Goldstein, founder and CEO of Bespoke, had this to say about the survey’s findings: Lastly, the top three favorite sex positions of straight individuals are doggy-style (26%), missionary (21%), and cowboy/cowgirl (19%).Īpart from favorite sex positions, the survey also looked into the top searched sex position in every state (wheelbarrow in New York, cliff diver in California, pretzel in Texas), preferred toys for sex, and favorite alternative settings - in the home - for sex, with the shower being by far the most popular.ĭr. Missionary is the most popular position (21%) of bisexual survey respondents, followed by doggy-style (20%), cowboy/cowgirl (13%), spooning (10%), and bodyguard or butterfly (both at 7%).